Why people have extramarital affairs?
Speak about a loaded matter that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on from millennium. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with troubles, cause heartache, and other harms. Plus you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, money, age difference, spiritual upbringing, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I should define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married women for dating.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I suppose mostly though it is only the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
In nature we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to switch the wish on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your family or anyone else? You would need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, gigantic really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they feel happy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to consider. Your money are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his wife for a multitude of reasons. As a man I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is vanished, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown distantly, our ordinary interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.